Living a Generous Marriage

Generosity is one of the primary factors for successful marriages, according to research. Couples who give to one another freely and abundantly report being “very happy” in their marriages. 

Conversations for Living a Generous Marriage

Take part in this opportunity to connect and grow with your partner. Twelve couple conversation ideas for a night out or a night in will be offered, with a new one posted every two weeks. Subscribe to receive a text or email reminder when new material is available.

Part IV: What's in Your Wallet

Give them wisdom and devotion in the ordering of their common life” Book of Common Prayer, Celebration of Holy Matrimony

“With all that I am and all that I have,” are words couples say in the marriage ceremony as they exchange rings.  This vow informs a theology of money in a marriage too.  There cannot be “her” money and “his” money.  A married couple only has “our” money.  As David Brooks wrote in the New York Times, separate accounts can easily turn into secret accounts.  The management of money symbolizes a couple’s values and priorities working together…or not.  If oneness is a goal of marriage, how do your finances help to achieve this?

When people were asked what they feared the most – getting cancer, having Alzheimer’s, or running out of money – the majority chose running out of money.  Clearly the management of money creates stress and anxiety; it can also create gratitude and a generous spirit. 

How did your parents talk about money when you were a child or was it a taboo subject? 

What is your greatest fear with your finances?

In what ways would you like to be more generous with money?

What holds you back from being more generous?

How have you benefitted from someone else being generous with their money?

What are the top five ways you spend your money? Does this correspond with your top values and priorities?

What percentage of your income do you give beyond yourself and are you content with this amount? 

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